I grew up pretty insecure, even despite, you know, my parents’ best efforts and that sort of thing. But because of that, I think in the past, I’ve been really unfair to people by assuming the worst intentions possible and getting really doubt on myself about it, like, really easily. Like, I’ve used to really analyze every interaction I had and thinking about like, “oh, I messed up these different times, and everyone’s thinking about it forever,” and I’ve ruined everything. It happened like all the time.

But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve started to see that’s really unfair to people, and it’s honestly a pretty self-centered way of thinking of things. Like, you have to be really self-centered to think so much of what other people do and think about is about you, and then also with ill intent towards you all the time. It’s like a really a lot of self-obsession and self-hatred. So, once I figured that out, I’ve been trying to unlearn that. It’s kind of hard. You know, it’s like a knee-jerk reaction, I think, especially when you grew up thinking that way about people. But it’s always really helpful to remember that people are just people, like we’re all just people out here hanging out. So that has helped me a bit.